One of the first things I learned in the first little while of being married to Cary was not to take anything he said, or did while sleepy, personal. Being a Faber, he is prone to talking in his sleep, growling at me, or suddenly sitting up in the middle of night scaring me to death because I would think something was wrong. So I would usually be left sitting there with my feelings hurt or my heart beating out of my chest and he would lay back down and go to sleep. Or he'd sit up and ask some random question, and I'd be like "What the...?", and if I answered he'd just go back to sleep and I never know what it was all about. Of course, Cary would be oblivious since he'd still be asleep!
I, on the other hand, came from a family that generally wakes up happy and quickly so the grumpiness took some getting used to.
Fast forward to last night, Cary fell asleep on the couch and when it was bedtime I asked him a couple of times if he was going to go to bed. I got a growl and snarl in response (see?, don't take it personal) .......okay, I'll just turn off the lights and go to bed. An hour later Cary comes stumbling into bed. (I was still awake thanks to my chest being on fire from stinking heartburn)
He's probably STILL wondering why I never woke him up and told him to go to bed. :-)